2 Key Questions That Predict Divorce Potential in Relationships

Introduction

Studies have shown that only two specific questions may offer insight into a marriage's longevity. Researchers Leora Friedberg and Steven Stern at the University of Virginia posed these questions to 3,597 couples, finding that responses helped predict potential relationship success or failure.

The Two Predictive Questions

1. How do you think your level of happiness would change if you and your partner separated?
Couples who rated their happiness as likely to improve after separation often found themselves on the path to divorce. High self-perceived happiness post-separation was a strong indicator of future relationship dissolution.

2. How do you think your partner’s level of happiness would change if you separated?
This question digs deeper, as correctly gauging a partner's potential happiness after separation correlates with a lower divorce rate. Misunderstanding your partner’s contentment level may indicate underlying communication gaps and dissatisfaction.

Study Insights and Findings

Through follow-ups, researchers noted that couples with a mutual understanding of each other's happiness status generally had a lower divorce rate, approximately 4.8%. Conversely, couples who overestimated or misjudged their partner’s satisfaction saw their divorce rates spike to around 12-14%. This disconnect emphasizes the critical role of empathy and communication within relationships.

Importance of Open Communication

While answering these questions might feel daunting, they provide a foundation for open discussions that can improve understanding. Even if initial responses suggest unhappiness, addressing these openly may help realign relationship dynamics.